chuckster11
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lesmore49 wrote:edmontoncamper wrote:When I talk with my mother (whom nearly died last year) I call her all sorts of names.. blue hair... aged one... and my favorite "wrinkly" .
She knows its all in good fun.
I also work with an older guy at work... i tease him about his age also...
It really is all about the intent.
If it is said to insult someone, the word is not the issue. the intent is.
I think it really depends on how YOU intend it to be perceived.
Bruce.
Exactly. Using the term 'bluehair' isn't what this is about, it's how a phrase, a word....is used.
A word in itself is harmless, but it's how a word is used...what's the intent.
If you say it to hurt someone, then it is wrong.
Nope, "perception" is in the mind of the receiver of the message--there is no way that the receiver can know the intent of the message creator. Therefore, if there is offense taken, then the offense is created in the mind/perception of the hearer of the word and the perceived intent and that is the rub.
If we are to engage in the use of a common language, and we do, then there needs to be some relaxation between the understanding of the message creator and the perception of the receiver to permit words to be used without offense.
In this age of victimization, all words can be "perceived" to be insulting and when combined with non-verbal communication that perception might be accurate. On the internet, all that non-verbal stuff is omitted therefore the words become subject to whatever perception/meaning the reader chooses to apply to the message--whether intended or not.
Always remember the "meaning" in any message is in the mind (perception) of the receiver--the sender of the message does not create the meaning.
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ridingfamily4
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I hope you remember that the next time you look at some kids walking down the street and think of them as punks, hippies, etc.
Respect works both ways....
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campin4kids
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Can you imagine the maintainance on this blue hair? $$
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2Rovers
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I don't find it offensive. I feel very secure in the knowledge that those using that term and others of disrespect will very soon (before they know it) be the ones that the next generation are calling names, and I'm sure those youth coming up now will have far worse names for them than 'bluehairs' 
I think sometimes we forget that the freedoms we have are freedoms not because of celebrities. The freedoms are because of ordinary people who did extraordinary things, who loved this country more than life itself.
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winnietrey
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Kids call DW and I BITS (blue hairs in training)
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dogmom4
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Tell yourself, it's their only retaliation after finding out how much smarter you are than them.
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Just ask an Indian.
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billystoy
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So what. what I don't like is some one who says wate till you get to be my age.
and are a lot younger then I am, don't care what you call me just don' call me back to work,
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My take on the subject is this. I know what I am and I know what I am not.
People can and have called me every name in the book and a few they invented.
I does not bother me at all. It is like water off of a duck's back.
I have GOOD self esteem.
Several years ago we had a guy that was a new employee in the Tennessee Department of Corrections, he lasted about a week and he quit because he could not stand how the inmates called him names. I worked there for twenty years. They called me everything they could think of.
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Cloud Dancer
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People are nuts, so why should I care what they say, or what they call me?
My friends call me by my first name.
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