StanleyandIris
Louisiana
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Do not feel bad about charging your grown son and his wife rent. $250 - $300 per month is not going to keep them from moving forward in life. Toss in a utility bill too. If they get mad about this little bit of rent, they are shameful and apparently do not mind taking advantage of you.
It is a hard, cruel world out there, but it was just as hard for you and your husband.
Working, not going to school? Pay rent.
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Skid Row Joe
America, Tent Camping and RVing since 1960
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I know one empty nest couple that moved from Omaha, NE to Miami, FL., to get away from their kids.  That can work too, to make them more self reliant after they've already left the nest. 1,700 miles is as far as they could get away in the lower 48.
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ggeeza
Gilbertsville, Pa
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TexasTreat wrote: Where does this sense of entitlement come from??
From parents who let their kids grow up with no discipline and no real consequences for their actions.
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Kajtek1
CA
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Coming from different system I can compare. In the past -the communistic system would not allow people to make enough money for normal living. It was very common the parents support 40-50 years old children. In this system my son went thru the college paying his own way. He never asked for my support and is paying his loans just fine.
It is a personal choice how do you want to raise your child.
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butkus21
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Do what we did - sell the house and move into the rv. They'll be forced to live on their own!! 
It isn't easy being a parent and I'm sure you will find a solution that will work for everyone. Best of luck!
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TexasTreat
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Thanks to all that replied! I guess I needed some "parental" feedback. I come from a VERY dysfunctional family of origin and so I'm breaking new ground here.....in raising my child to where he is now is the opposite of what my parents did with me.....my mother has my 44 year old brother/her son, living with her. My son sees that arrangement and then questions why I'm being "mean" to him...he just doesn't "get it" quite yet but eventually I hope that he will grow up and look back and appreciate learning how to be independent and responsible. Time will tell. Thanks for the feedback tho from everyone! Interesting responses...I'll keep charging rent and they can move if they don't like it but I'm not being adversarial about it - they are pouting but I just ignore it and smile and go about my life happily.
Cheers, Tee
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Happytraveler
Capistrano Beach, Ca. USA
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When our boys were living at home at the age they should of been out of the house we decided that we wouldn't charge them rent as long as they saved for a down payment on a house. If they didn't save they were out. They're both married now and have their own places.
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sharrlan
chino,ca
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TexasTreat wrote:Thanks to all that replied! I guess I needed some "parental" feedback. I come from a VERY dysfunctional family of origin and so I'm breaking new ground here.....in raising my child to where he is now is the opposite of what my parents did with me.....my mother has my 44 year old brother/her son, living with her. My son sees that arrangement and then questions why I'm being "mean" to him...he just doesn't "get it" quite yet but eventually I hope that he will grow up and look back and appreciate learning how to be independent and responsible. Time will tell. Thanks for the feedback tho from everyone! Interesting responses...I'll keep charging rent and they can move if they don't like it but I'm not being adversarial about it - they are pouting but I just ignore it and smile and go about my life happily.
Cheers, Tee
Let them go live with your mom.
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TexasTreat
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Yeah, I told him he was free to go live with MeeMaw anytime he wanted! LOL
But he won't cos she drives him crazy and I have pointed that out to him that her way of life is dysfunctional. So he knows in his heart that he needs to grow up and be responsible for his life...just figure he is pushing the envelope once again with me.
AAhhh the excitement of being a parent...glad I only had one! LOL
Cheers, Tee
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Doug4.7
Hartselle, AL, USA
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macira wrote:Someone told me that when your kids turn 18, you should send them to the movie, change your name and move to Montana! When I graduated from high school, my parents got me a suitcase for a graduation gift (i.e., a hint that I was to move out of the house). I think I will keep up the tradition with my kids.
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