my husband is from england (their idea of camping is a tent in the rain) and i wasn't entirely sure how he would cope with "camping", like you i was willing to give it a try
it took a couple of years for his confidence to build to the point of feeling mostly self-sufficient, but it was worth the wait...as you can see from my sig line, my mom's day present was a new truck and tt
i found that with the right recompense (good company, favorite wine or meal) and a fair bit of patience, he is the one that now bothers me to go places and see things - i'm quite proud of my little "grasshopper"
Bob & Lori (BNL)
2012 Tracer 230FBS (Cupcake)
2012 Ram 1500 ST Hemi 5.7 (Smoke)
Why didn't we do this sooner ?!?!?
Hey Sarah, so glad to hear you're taking another step in moving forward. Is the relationship with your kids such that you could take a weekend trip by yourselves without them feeling left out?? Maybe you just tell him what an important part of your life and your kids lives that camping has been and that it's something you'd like for him to be a part of, too. If he wants to. Obviously he has no previous experience in all the stuff that goes with it, but tell him you'd like for him to feel comfortable doing these things and would love to show (maybe not the word teach) him all about it and to have a quiet time together. I'm sure you already know this, but Drs - and possibly lawyers, too - sometimes have a tough time with a light bulb. I've worked for both MDs, DOs and DVMs - by far the more diverse were the DVMs. I think some Professionals are just wired differently and he may or may not ever feel skilled at some of the things you do already. I've been so impressed with the skills you've mastered these past few years and think you can show him how these things are done in a way that will not make him feel inadequate. And.....some people just plain don't have some of these skills. Suggest you start with a weekend alone, if possible, then move on to some other household things you'd appreciate him having some degree of skill in. Unless he expresses an interest in having your dad or brothers help in the learning process, think I'd leave that alone for now. Might be a bit intimidating.
I'm fortunate that my DH can and does fix just about anything that comes along - that's his strong suit. His people skills - not so much. Sometimes ya just got to trade off. Best wishes and let us know how things are with you, the new important person and your young ones.
PS I reread your post and have a couple other suggestions. How 'bout investing in a couple of matching T-shirts with some sort of outdoorsy thing on them. If they get all greasy, too bad. If you can unload the kiddos with the grandparents I think that has benefits. Fix some simple meals that he really likes and toss in a bottle of wine or two. Even after 7 years with our ROO, we still double/triple check each other - might be another learning experience. If he really takes to the camping thing and he becomes a more permanent fixture, you could look into a 3 bunk model and each of the kids would have their own bunk and room to bring a friend - but not right now!!!!! I think you can do this and he'll learn and enjoy, but for right now keep it as simple as you can.
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2003 Ford F-150 with Blue Ox 1000 & Prodigy
5 doggies - We support Adopt/Rescue
Sam, you were the best!
Foxy is our new camping buddy
Just rescued 2 lab sisters, 8 weeks old - Biscuit and Lily
Your situation was mine in reverse. The DW was more of a handicap when we started RV'ing but now she can stay up with the best of them.
Don't try to reprogram him, it doesn't work.
Do the make-ready and maintenance together as a team and he'll catch on or not. Ask him to help with the heavy lifting. You will see where this is going after a few trips.
I admire your ability and willingness. Best of luct to you and your's.
my $.02 would be to talk to him. If he is not interested in camping and doing maintenance to your rig then you have some thinking to do. Do you want to continue doing it all on your own? Do you want to think about leaving the camping lifestyle with a trailer and get a cabin somewhere?
Personaly I would have no problem learning from a female. However I would feel a bit taken back IF I felt forced into something that I didn't want to do.
Have the conversation with him, During the past 7 months it must have come up
If he falls through I want a date!! Just kidding. Teach him how to do it and if he doesn't learn kick him to the curb and keep looking. You have no use for a man who is a liability. With your credentials you will find the right guy.
THanks all of you, gosh this is why I luv this group.
We talked in depth last night. While his idea of camping has always been concierge level hotels, he said he knows how much the kids and I love this and how bonding it could be and then he said (I quote) Before I go to Jared's I want to make sure you want to keep me. The women will get that response! OMG! not ready for that and he was joking but he said I've been so willing at golf (I hate it but I do it and am getting better as he loves it, even taking lessons) then the very least he can do is give it the good ol' college try and really thinks it would be relaxing and a great family (ahem!) activity.
So, both kids have birthday parties (when did birthday parties for kids become such huge big deals? it's sad really) anyway they are staying with gram and gramps and we have reservations at Camp Rudolph for Fri Sat and Sun and like so many of you said, he said I'll watch, definitely do lifting, help as I can and take notes, maybe video.
Then when we are home he wants me to make him a maintenance, winterizing and so on notebook with photos if I can (I just sort of said well that's months from now so we'll see) and his best friend's wife is going shopping for him today for some proper get funky clothes (she comes from a farming/camping/fishing/mud racing family)
My dad hooted at me and said the hardest thing will be teaching him the right way to build a good fire but he's never seen a woman do it better than me (Mom sucks at it, she covers up the oxygen)
So, we'll either come home early and broken up; or do good and plan to work on it more
Rudolph is private and amenities and all so figured his first time, you know. And I promised him I'd do the tank emptying but he has to watch and learn just in case there was a blow-out but I have a system that that's unlikely to happen.
MomDadH, you always understand me so so so so so well. One day I will go down there and we will have fun!
Wait till he gets the full effect of margaritas by the fire with caramel/vanilla marshmellows. (glad I have an assist handle to help push him up the steps when he's woblbling huh?)
He's been in the camper of course and visited the kids and I while we were camping but not overnight before and likes the camper itself and gets the premise that it's not a Hilton Bathroom but the campground bath houses aren't bad at Rudolph. He did ask if the ladder that folds flat I have and store in bumper (Sewer stuff goes in pvc on top of the bumper) would reach him up to peak down through the shower skylight,,,, PERVERT !!! laughing its so dirty, even the squirrels won't see me anymore,
HOW DOES ONE GET THOSE DANG SKYLIGHTS REALLY CLEAN? I have used vinegar combos, alcohol combos (on the plexiglas not in me ) and so on and it's still kind of yucky looking this year. It's 2 part isn't it? maybe that's the answer , to just get a new top and the bottom would be cleanable.
It's also maybe gonna storm/rain so I figure this will be a good thing too as he can see what that's all about at camp in a HTT.
Report next week whether there's hope for him or not!!!!!!!
- LOVE, Sarah -
Sarah and 2 little twins,
2009 Rockwood by Forest River, Model Roo 23SS
Southern Indiana, USA
I forgot to say it will take restraint on my part to not just jump in and do it all, just like his dad was I know after doing all this, but I plan to turn all femme fatale on him eventually on the heavy stuff if we stick together. Heck, maybe I can end up with him and my son doing mostly grilling for meals and then get them to cleanup, while daughter and I "rest" and I did check and he does know how to put bait on and take fish off but has never cleaned or cooked so that might take some time too. I'm gonna pick up some frozen shrimp from aldi's along with the usual nightcrawlers, mealworms and stuff just to give him another new thing to see if he gives me any weird looks (kidding)
I promise no more addendums on this thread, but this is hilarious. His sister just called me and she's going to get some long johns at a farmer store and tell him he has to wear them camping in bed. OMG. This WILL be worthy of a tv reality series at this rate.
- Sarah - I promise I'm going to leave you alone now for a week or two
Oh, Sarah! A willing learner is a good start to being a keeper. And anybody who loves a notebook for anything is my kind of person!!! And Jared's is a nice place for some shopping + that means a sense of humor. Also a good thing. Glad you are going to have some low-key, quiet time to get this camping thing figured out. Our weather is supposed to be great this weekend and yours looks to be similar - also excellent! Hotels hold little appeal to me after camping. Maybe invest in a new book for him that you know he'll love - nothing like sitting outside in the gravity chair reading a wonderful book and hearing the birds, etc. If he's a baseball fan or a John Grisham fan, "Calico Joe" is the one.
So, he's got the new "camping clothes", the book maybe, the Margaritas, the marshmallows.....what's for dinner??? Oh, sheesh! Don't forget the really good bug spray. Just sayin'. Nothing to kill a camping trainee like getting eaten alive by some bugs. NO!!!
We're having our first real camping weekend of the season. Leaving tomorrow and home mid-day Sunday. DS#1 had a truly nasty infection, starting 2 days after Christmas, in his lovely artificial knee and what with one thing and another, almost didn't get out of the hospital through the right door. Bless his heart, he's had more than his share with those knees. He's on Lovanox and our wonderful neighbor volunteered to learn to give him his injections so we could have a couple days of being "off duty". Soooo looking forward to this. We need a break and I feel sure he needs a break from us. Looking forward to a wonderful weekend.
BTW, Kentucky is a nice in-between spot. Any time you're heading south, please be sure to give us the word and we'll make every effort to head north. Have a great weekend!!!
PS You do realize we're "old" people, right?? Hugs.