The problem is not with your daughter, it's with the mutants who inhabit this planet. I'd ask if she could stay at a girlfriend's supervised home, if not that then with her Mother.
dieharder wrote: Although I would not be comfortable leaving my 14YO daughter alone, I have known people to leave their child alone for a week or two while on vacation south since she was 13 and she didn't want to go. Only you know whether your child is mature enough and able enough to handle the responsibility, not other people on an internet message board.
You'd be in for a rude awakening. Don't test the mine-set of a 15 year old.
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This post is getting a little crazy. I'm not sure why you even asked the question here. You posted the question and only post replies to the folks that say they would not leave their child alone. To me that sounds like you already made up your mind and don't need any input from us. I think it was in page 5 that you posted how great and mature and responsible your daughter is. Then why are you asking again? Most parents, like me, believe their children are great, mature, and responsible. But it's not always just the child that needs to be worried about. It's everyone else. You just posted on a public forum that your 15 year old daughter is going to be home along at night. Holly******I would not be comfortable now!!
As for me, would I leave my 15 year old home along? Maybe for one night if I was staying down the street. But not if it was for any longer or I just announced it on a public forum. All those 'what if' that you are saying are low percentages. I don't care what the percentage is, if they did happen, I would not be able to forgive myself. I would rather have my daughter mad at me for a couple days then get hurt or worse.
crispyc21 wrote: This post is getting a little crazy. I'm not sure why you even asked the question here. You posted the question and only post replies to the folks that say they would not leave their child alone. To me that sounds like you already made up your mind and don't need any input from us. I think it was in page 5 that you posted how great and mature and responsible your daughter is. Then why are you asking again?
He's not...folks just keep answering the original question as if the O.P. hadn't said AGES AGO that he/she had all the info looked for, thanked us all very nicely for our input, and retired to make his (very personal) decision.
O.P.'s probably unsubscribed by now...
" Not every mind that wanders is lost. " With apologies toJ.R.R. Tolkien
Some of the answers in this thread are all sorts of ridiculous.
OP: A night or so I wouldn't have an issue with it depending on YOUR child and their level of responsibility. Lay some strict ground rules and have a way to ensure they are followed.
I laugh at all those talking about how the OP has given subtle information about where they live and leaving a 15 year old girl at home alone and how that's unsafe.
Is that any more unsafe than everyone announcing where they're camping next weekend? same info can be dug up and you could come home to an empty house!!!
If you can't leave your 15 year old home for a day you've failed as a parent. You also should get to training that child how to fend for themselves or they will be living in your basement smoking pot until they are in their 40's or you die, whichever comes first.
(BTW, this comment is not aimed at Brent, he sounds like an awesome parent who's trying to do the right thing.)
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crispyc21 wrote: You just posted on a public forum that your 15 year old daughter is going to be home along at night. Holly******I would not be comfortable now!!
I wasn't going to comment, but I now feel the need to do so. Not only have you posted your 15 year old daughter will be alone sometimes at night, but you've given info such as you live in rural Alabama within 30 min of the campground. I don't have time to read everything you've posted throughout the years to see what other identifying info you've posted. You also have a website/blog listed in your profile which I bet has more info that could be used to figure out where you live.
My family wouldn't even post about leaving an adult woman home at night alone let alone a 15 year old girl. It seems to me you've put your daughter at risk by posting this on-line. I'll now strongly suggest she stay with a relative or friend.
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Tuned in again after a few days. Holy crap. Where is your mind? Geez. Mods, OP here. Please close. For anyone who wants to discuss, PM me (even the bone-head mud-slingers).
YOu might be really upset with what he/she posted, but it is true. You really have to think about what you post online, especially if you have a blog or other identifiers about where and who you are, where you camp. It's sad that it has to be that way, but you have to be in charge of your privacy online. Particularly if you have kids. Most people online are same as you and me, just regular people. But sadly, nutso's can also read posts, and we never know who they are. I just always err on the side of super cautious when posting anything online and some will ridicule people who are careful about their identity, and I think that is ridiculous for them to do so. I am a trusting person...to a point.
I am not trusting at all. I've said thank you to folks. I think I've been polite. I've let some mud-slinging go and even thanked folks for their opinion. And, I've asked the mods to close. Since the onslaught continues, lets have some fun, get to know each other further, and get specific with this debate vs general paranoia. Read all my posts, specifically here, and my blog. If someone can give me detailed information about my location or true vulnerability of my daughter vs. irrational fear, please PM me that information so as to not be careless like some of you think I've been, and I'll go public here and admit to everyone I will be more careful.
Your children's vulnerabilities are walking from the bus, giving specific details on facebook, mall parking lots, cell phone monitoring, predator stake-outs (sitting and watching for patterns), texting specific information to people they don't know, parking lots after dark, remote areas away from people, etc. This is part of what my "Human Trafficking Training" has taught me. I also have current training in "Information Security", "Information Protection", and "Operations Security" just so you know. All said, I can still admit I may be wrong. I am human.
What is happening is that some of you are spinning off of each other's fears and I imagine others may find me pretentious. I'm ok with either. Like you, I've opened myself up here to the forum knowing what may come. And you should know that by commenting, you also open yourself up as I have. Now, pages later and without it being closed long after I've said thanks, I'm going to bounce off of every comment I think is ignorant.
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