I totally understand where Mrs Goldwing is coming from. I'm a social person, but there's a difference between your true friends, and the people you meet and talk with while camping. To me, your true friends are almost like your family - and leaving them should not be taken lightly. Friends are valuable. It doesn't make sense to say "I'll just leave my (member of your family) because they'll be there when I get back and I'll find a new one along the way". Friends have a different level of value to different people, and you can't just tell her to go find new ones. One thing that keeps us in the "weekender" category is that our core social group is based at home. I'm not ready to say goodbye, but that's not saying that I never will. Life evolves. Right now I love getting away a little bit, and then coming back.
It does sound like they have different visions for what their golden years look like, and I don't know what to do about that. Clearly, some compromise on both parts is in order. I've seen other couples in that position - who thinks of discussing that when you're young and in love?
Mrs Goldwing does not need to feel guilty because her idea of a good life means grandkids, friends, etc. Mr Goldwing doesn't need to feel guilty because to him it doesn't. The key here is to not let the whole situation fester - get everything out in the open and start discussing solutions. There's one in there somewhere. Each party can have what they want (at least sometimes), and the other party needs to be happy for them and not use guilt as a tool. Each one may discover things they didn't know about themselves and what they want out of life. Or maybe they don't.
We use a Kuat NV platform rack normally (when we go biking), but not on camping trips. We tried it on the back of the fiver - seemed logical since we already owned the expensive bike rack and loved it. However, the bikes rocked back and forth too much. We tried bungeeing the bikes to the back ladder after putting them on the Kuat, but they still had too much movement. With the road bikes, it might have eventually worked, but I discovered that the mountain bikes which have straight handle bars were hitting the big rear window of the fiver. We decided to abandon the idea before we completely shattered the window.
We switched to a Yakima roof-mount system on top of the truck. Works well since you don't have to worry about the height (the fiver is taller than the bikes), and they are out of the way. Also, someone would have to work pretty hard to get at them, so I don't worry about them when we stop to eat or whatever.
Our Open Range came with 3 20-pounders, and I think it's a great setup. First of all, I can actually lift them when full, and I'm usually the one who ends up getting them filled. Plus the propane bay is under the fiver nose which means you have to bend over the whole time you are loading or unloading them. Second, there's always a spare back there, even if you've already switched the valve to the second tank then forgotten you did that. We always take them to a local place to get them filled/topped off, but I like the fact that if we were out camping I have the option of doing a swap at a local convenience store. We do some cold weather camping, and I REALLY don't want to run out of propane.