We were happly married and I thought that we would live together forever. On April 7 my wife died. I am devestated. She besides being my wife, she was my best friend, soul mate and GPS. This coming June 14th we would have been married for 44 years.
I can't believe that RVing would be enjoyable without someone to share the experience with. I plan to keep the RV for awhile but will probably end up selling it when and if the cost of fuel cost back down.
DH of 52 years passed in Oct. 2004. I kept the 38' DP for two years, but never drove it again. In April 2007 I got a 30' class C, joined a "club", and have put about 5000 miles on it. Not the same, but would not think of getting a new DH. Would like to meet a lady friend who would like to travel with me in the rig.
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Me and my Siberian Huskie (cat in a dog suit)
30' Safari Ivory class C
Reading this has been very helpful, including the humor. My DH & I will celebrate 25 years in September. No summer ever went by that we didn't go camping: tent, popup, hybrid TT (we fulltimed in that for 10 months). In '05 I traded truck for a Honda Civic hybrid and sold TT because DH was diagnosed with terminal cancer (treatment possible, but no cure). As soon as I was able to retire, 2/07, we bought a MH because I was sure I could handle it alone. We set out on a fulltiming journey that took us to 10 states, visiting all 7 children and DH's two brothers, enjoying the Rockies, the Winds, the ocean and the desert. In all likelihood I will be in it alone before this year is out.
As a pastor, I have always advised grieving widows/widowers to not make changes in their lives for a couple of years; it takes that long for the mind-numbing part of grief to pass, a time when one is more apt to make decisions that one later regrets. So I intend to take my own best advice. I will continue fulltiming for at least a couple of years, connecting with LOWs, WIN, SKP Solos, as well as SKP Class of 2007. I believe, from observing many senior women over the years, that feeling like a 5th wheel with couples is our own problem, not an issue for the vast majority of couples. Therefore, I will work at fixing my own attitude issues. Beyond that couple of years, I'm making no plans.
As to another spouse, . . . I'm well aware of the advisability of "never say never." But I doubt that I will be interested in another mate. My DH and I have been very good for each other, eventually, after much work on each of our baggage. I have other things I want to do more than I want to do that work all over again.
Thanks for this thread.
Carolyn
Joey (Australian cattle dog/Brittany)
Oliver and Millie (don't know they're cats)
'94 Southwind (no slides)
'05 Honda Civic Hybrid
Carolyn and Keith, I know what you are going through as that was the same scenario that we faced. My DH never thought that he WOULD NOT beat he cancer, but I knew that it would take nothing short of a miracle to accomplish that, and miracles do happen. (Stage 4 metastasized to the liver, treatable, not curable) I was apprehensive about going to Florida last winter but DH wanted nothing more then to sit in the sunshine. As it turned out the chemo therapy was more then his body could handle but he would not give up trying and let the cancer take its course. Until his last breath he would not give up.
I know that it made him happy to be in Florida and I made that possible by being able to handle taking care of the driving and the setting up and tearing down when we arrived.
Do what you have to do and enjoy the time you have, you can never get it back again. My prayers are with you. Jan
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