puli-one
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Had a long talk with my Brother In Law last night, our niece is really steamed at both parents as they won't allow her boyfriend to enjoy a weekend sleep over at the house. She's eighteen, first year U student, he asked our opinion and both DW and I agree with the parents, I just think it is morally wrong. The argument that the niece puts forth is that the other parents (his included) think it is fine.
Any opinions!
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Jack_Jack
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Did they want to sleep in the same bed at your BIL house? That would be so wrong.
When I was in high school, I dated a boy from the local college. He was a long way from home and didn't get to visit home except at Christmas. My parents allowed him to spend the week end with us. We usually went on a date on Friday night, came home. I went to my room upstairs, he went to the guest room. We hung out with family on Sat, went to church on Sunday, had a big lunch and he would go back to the dorm.
He was not allowed upstairs at all. It worked for us. But no way would my parents have allowed us to share the same room or the same bed.
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PopcornJunkie
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It's the parents home and the parents rules. So what if she's 18 and other parents allow it. Just curious about something. Are your niece and her boyfriend planning on sleeping in the same room?
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GreenSalsa
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Their house--their rules, if the "kids" want something different then they should "grow up" and get a hotel room.
I spent many a night in my car (in the front of my girlfriends house) because I was too tired to drive the 45-60 min back home.
Earned her parents respect and made me a better man as a result.
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PopcornJunkie
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One idea that might make the situation better (assuming they don't plan on sleeping in the same bed) is to have the boyfriend sleep at a friend of your bil or your niece who lives close by. Even if the plan is to have the boyfriend sleep in the another room, unless the bil is sleeping in front of his dd's bedroom door there is not way to guarantee they won't end-up in the same room.
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mike54
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puli-one wrote:Had a long talk with my Brother In Law last night, our niece is really steamed at both parents as they won't allow her boyfriend to enjoy a weekend sleep over at the house. She's eighteen, first year U student, he asked our opinion and both DW and I agree with the parents, I just think it is morally wrong. The argument that the niece puts forth is that the other parents (his included) think it is fine.
Any opinions!
she is 18 at college lay down the rules no sleeping together,no sex they respect the rules or he gets kicked out.
if the parents say no that could make her feel her and her friends are not welcome.
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CTD2003
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Sure they can "sleep together" as long as he wears a dog shocker collar in a place of my choosing and his hands are handcuffed to his ankles.
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incampnut
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Depends on the sleeping arrangements. If the parents want to keep them in separate rooms then ok, it's there house and they can make the rules. Otherwise I don't see the problem. She is an adult.
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JayGee
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What was the name for it? "bunting sack"? :-)
I don't think it would be a good idea. If he had to travel a long way get him a room nearby or something.
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travlcampnfuls
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so what if 'other parents' are allowing this behavior in their home. when her name is on the mortgage, she is footing all the bills, and her parents are guests, she can do as she pleases. if she wants to be treated as an adult she needs to act like one and respect her parents territory of authority. as stated before, if they wish to spend 'intimate' time together, get a hotel room.
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