coolbreeze01
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Look on the bright side:
Parents live with your sister.
Son is worried about being a parent? A little late for that. He should be glad his mom is happy for him.
You won't miss the daughter in law, and your son will have rights to the kids or they just might get back together anyway.
I worked long hours when there wasn't enough money or sometimes when there wasn't any joy at home.
You are probably messing with your own health by worrying over things you can't fix. Don't let other people's problems wreck your life. They can get their own minister. Good luck.
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Mandrake
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....hey Tammala, this too shall pass, I will say a prayer for you tonight. You have many friends here who care for you.....take good care.....
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You are in my prayers.
Look up Phillipians 4:6-7, and concentrate on what those verses say.
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CatandJim
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I can certainly relate.... it's times like you have been going through that have made me more thankful for some of the little things in life and one big thing, my loving husband. I am glad to see you are able to find thankful things even when you are overwhelmed.
I will remember you in my prayers today. I am hopeful you will find that perfect job and be proud of yourself for doing so! That would be a good start on a new path for you. Keep the faith and never give up hope!
Hope is the thing with feathers
That perches in the soul
And sings the tune without words,
And never stops at all
And sweetest in the gale is heard.
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Be kinder than necessary because everyone you meet is fighting some sort of battle....
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I am so sorry to see that you are having a hard time with life's curveballs. When this happens to me, I try to itemize the problems and work on the ones I think I can influence. I usually find that when I approach things in that way, some of the items that I can not influence work themselves out and the time I spend working on what I can effect is well spent.
I think you and DH should spend some time with each other. Maybe even if it is a simple lunch date or a special meal some night. Once communication lines open up, you may find that you each are stressing about the same things. For me, it is always easier when I have someone to share the load.
I truly hope that the next few weeks bring you to a happier place.
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countryside2007
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I think that as our children become adults we believe we will worry less but that isn't always the case.
Try looking for one good thing in your life every day, such as your children (although with problems) are healthy,
You have a new life coming into your world. start a baby project
or it just may be something in your life that you see everyday that you have over looked, such as how lucky you are to have such a good friend who is coming to rescue you for a couple of days.
As our parents age they bring into our lives a whole new set of worries, my suggestion there would to have a family meeting and as a family work out a plan. We all know they are going to have medical issues but if we all know ahead of time who's responsible for what (this include who has limitations such as being able to contribute money)then the stress can be relieved some. work out a plan with your sister to go over for the afternoon a couple times a week, so that she may have some time off and you will be contributing to there care. And please make sure your parents have a living will so that there care is based on there wishes and you don't have to make those decisions for them.
My hope for you is that you will find some happiness, and that all things in your life will come to a resolution soon.
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MusTangFilly
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I feel for you, but you need to look at everything around you, and only take what is yours. Most of these problems are NOT yours, they belong to others. You have no control over those. Don't let them be your problems, don't let them get heaped on your back. They will be ironed out eventually, for everyone. Most importantly, take some time for yourself and treat yourself well. With kindness, gentleness, and with love. Life has it's ups and downs, but mostly ups. Look up, think positively, know that this will all clear and be beautiful again.
And you will have a new life within your life. Be thankful for that.
All the best, and sending positives your way....................Leslie
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Mandrake
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....Leslie.....you're right on, I need to remember that as well....thanks!
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Veronica
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It's been a rough couple of months for me too...lots of changes and adjustments here. I understand your worry about the job-hunt (I'm not having much luck either). My husband and I are separating...and it will lead to divorce. There will be no reconciliation. I don't have any words of advice for you, but just know that I'm thinking about you. It will get better.
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StanleyandIris
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Can't find a job? Go to a temp. agency and sign up. It will get you out of the house and put a few $$ into the household. Not only that, but temp's have a way of getting hired full-time. It may not be on your first temp. placement but sooner or later you will be offered a job.
Son getting divorced? Maybe, but in the meantime do not take sides. In fact, never take sides, keep the lines of communication open. Speak to your estranged DIL and let her know that no matter what has happens between the 2 of them, you will always be there for her and your grandchild.
I am so sorry that Dad is not well and that Sis is complaining that you do not do enough to help with your parents. Talk to her and ask her for specific things that you can do to make it easier on her. Maybe taking them to the doctor or having them stay with you for a week or so at a time so she have some free time will be the ticket.
DH is working long hours because he has too. The best thing you can do for him is to not burden him with your worries. He is running as fast as he can and you being worried all the time tells him he just isn't doing enough.
Worry never solved anything and never made anything better. No one can see into the future and it is a waste of time to worry about things that you can fix, that are not in your control anyway, or that may never happen.
Call your sister. Call your DIL. Call a temp agency. Get the ball rolling.
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