star6443 wrote: Please PLEASE keep them, your grandson deserves to know and SEE that at one point his parents loved each other and where happy together. It might not be until he is 40 years old but someday he will want to see them together and happy and know why he came to be.
From a mother who wants her daughters to know that there was a time when mommy and daddy were in love and daddy did care.
This was my thinking. Even though they fell out of love and things have not worked out, they did love each other at one time. If I throw away the album, then my grandson (and yes he will be two in Sept.) may never see how happy his parents were when they did have a life together.
If at some time he doesn't want them, then he can toss them. My son is okay with me keeping it, once I explained to him why I was doing it. I told him he would never have to look at it. As for the goblets, they'er Mikasa and cost a fortune. I know I bought them.
I to hope that they can continue to work together to make sure my grandson never feels as if his parents didn't love him, or that the rest of the family forgot about him. If they both find new partners in their lives and can be happy, I truly wish it for both of them. I don't think anyone should stay in a marriage that is no good.
But I am still mad at the way she chose to leave this marriage.
I would tell your son that you want to keep the album for a month and then ask again when things settle down, but tell him why. Sell the goblets as suggested. It's called family trust; necessary in troubled times.
Of course, mother "forgetfulness" is also an option.
God bless.
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I think you should save them. As you know, I'm going through a separation right now which will lead to divorce. It's important for my kids to know that mom and dad loved each other and still love each other, even though we can't be married anymore. Kids need to know that they came from love.
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Having a mother who has gone through three (that's -3-) divorces, and kept anything that wasn't nailed down or really wasn't her "style"...keep the album--you're right, the grandson should have a chance to see it...
Let's face it, it can't be annulled now...for one obvious reason.... As far as the goblets go--how personalized are they? If they're monogrammed, is it only with the first letter of the last name? Again, the grandson may wish to use them in later years as a "hand down gift" of sorts...after all, his initial is the same one--and they'll be antiques by then...if it's not, then sell them, or call Mikasa and see if they'll take a trade-in toward something else (a phone call is cheap), glass can be melted and reblown. Or, sell them on e-bay.
It sounds like your son wants to throw away reminders of a marriage that ended badly (what about the son?)...which is probably a very normal feeling from a hard divorce. But he shouldn't throw away things which may someday be very sentimental for his son.
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