I didn't have too many friends in HS and I didn't go to any dances. I really felt out of place in HS. Very few people "got me". I got good grades and got into college. There I found a good group of people that I still stay in contact with today.
High school was a drag. College was fun. Working in research is even more fun and I get paid to do it.
Moral of the story is HS can seem like the end of the world, but later, it will just be a bitter sweet memory.
My wife had few friends in school, due in large part to a volcanic temper...I had more, though many weren't comfortable around Liz (I think some were simply frightened of her). There were about three girls that she got along with (graduating class was ~450-500), all from the drama club, maybe half a dozen boys (also in the drama club) aside from me.
Part of it was her personality: she could be (still is, actually) rather private, sometimes to the point of being seemingly paranoid. Part was because she simply didn't care what anyone thought of her. It took me four days of almost-constant cajoling before she even agreed to go to the junior prom with me.
She's probably more mature than her "friends" and thinks HS boys are immature jerks. (I plead guilty.) Just think, Tom...your daughter might bring a college freshman home to meet you someday soon!
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I worked a full time schedule after school and dated a man four years older than myself while in high school. Because of that I wasn't really a part of any particular group or clique but I had a lot of friends outside of school. It was hard at times because the mean girl groups would think they needed to pick on anyone who wasn't "in" with them and from time to time I would be a target. I tried my best to either ignore them or to look them right in the eye with a pity-ing smile on my face, either of which would usually stop their fun... eventually.
There are no easy answers for girls going through that sort of treatment.... I wish there was, I will hope for the best for your daughter. It's got to be hard watching her go through it! Sorry to hear she is a target.
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There is considerable societal pressure from both boys and girls that girls should become compliant and meek to be popular. Since you mention "gets good grades" this is probably where she runs into problems with popularity.
It's little consolation to her now, but the reality is that once she is in college, she'll be plenty popular. Yeah, there are the sorority crowds who gain popularity by debasing themselves, but there are plenty of other women who will welcome her for what she is.
For now? Getting her involved in something outside school that interests her. Others have mentioned her maturity level; the key is finding something that she is not only interested in, but she can be involved with people of similar maturity levels.
Teenage girls are mean, pure and simple. Girls are mean. Boys are much more honest w/ each other - slug it out and walk away pals.
You don't mention if your daughter is involved in any extracurricular acitvities. When our girls (we have 4 and they are all grown,) started HS we insisted before they walked in the door that they join something. We have a large high school and it's easy to get lost in the crowd. it had to be an activity that involved a lot of time - practice, meetings, and the like. It couldn't be Latin Club that meets once every two months.
I wish I could give you some magic advice because all parents want the best for their children and their happiness is our happiness. Volunteer to sell tickets at games, work a bake sale, help w/ a car wash - her, not you - and move out of her current group of non friends. Cultivate one good friend. Encourage those phone calls at night. Girls must talk If a phone call in this house was ever for us it had to be a wrong number. LOL.
There's nothing wrong w/ good grades - ours were popular and members of the National Honor Society. How you handle your brain is important. Good luck - I do not want to relive teenage years. They are stressful enough without issues like this.
Pat
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My son was in a similar situation. He found a hobby that he enjoys and has found instant friends there. He's become very involved in local community theatre. His last two girlfriends have been from the theatre - they seem to appreciate his eccentric streak.
If she enjoys horses, horsey girls are pretty friendly (at least around here) and there are plenty of horsey things to do - showing, jumping, dressage, trail riding, barrel racing - even drill team on horseback.
I know how you feel. I had a son in the same place. Eventually, it will get better. The coolest adults I know were outcasts in school.
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If a phone call in this house was ever for us it had to be a wrong number. LOL. 
