campin4kids wrote: There is a fine line between being safe and smothering. I hope I can find that happy medium.
I think the key is the sliding path to independence. Don't worry about smothering a 12 y/o, but remember that when they turn 18, they need to be ready to make all of their own choices.
I would suggest having a counseling session with both daughters, separately, determine the reason(s) they opened the account without your approval. Listen to what they have to say, then determine the consequences. If they lie, then the punishment should be harsher. However, when you decide the punishment, the length of punishment, explain the reason for your action, then don't waiver on the length or severity of the punishment. Remember, PEER PRESSURE IS TREMENDOUS in todays society.
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campin4kids wrote: There is a fine line between being safe and smothering. I hope I can find that happy medium.
I think the key is the sliding path to independence. Don't worry about smothering a 12 y/o, but remember that when they turn 18, they need to be ready to make all of their own choices.
If you brainstorm with your kids, you may all be able to come up with a solution that satisfies everybody. Kids will love to give you input, you can voice your concerns.
Rather than using this as a lecture and punishment, your kids have shown you they want to start exerting that independence. Helping them navigate the web safely rather than forbidding it entirely would help them get there.
Whenever I'm in doubt about what to do with my kids when they get into sticky situations, I take a deep breath and then first and foremost base my decision on what's best for my relationship with my kids. Our relationship is key. That makes deciding what to do a bit easier.
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