Sometimes we take our daughter in law and grandkids, she goes then, i guess maybe all guys is not her thing
I assumed the two boys were youngsters but now it sounds like they're adults or young adults. That could be boring for her and if she's expected to do the cooking and packing and cleaning up... well I can see why she wouldn't want to go.
Are you talking about camping, or doing something else. If she objects to camping, part of fixing the problem would be to stop calling it camping, if that is not what you really want to do. Many RVers never go camping, they got the RV so they don't have to camp.
When we were young, my wife camped with me to be with me when I was doing field work, not that she liked camping. That was camping, living in tent, cooking over fire or stove, showering and washing hair maybe every 3-4 days to a week. She accepted the hardships to be with me and interact with the people I worked and studied with.
40 years later we got the RV, we made it clear that we were not camping. What she wanted to do in retirement was travel with me. The RV was what we used as our moving motel while traveling to see the country. Not for camping. She wanted to travel other places too, so we compromised. She went with me on our road trips, I went with her on her cruises and escorted tours.
But if you are really talking about camping, and what she objects to is the camping life, then you are likely to get nowhere, trying to convince her that what she really wants to do is go live in the woods in primitive conditions.
Are these trips going to be the only vacations? For the past 7 years, all of our vacations have been in the moho. Don't get me wrong, I love camping and the moho, but this year I wanted a vacation where I didn't have to cook, clean and drive for hours on end. So I made reservations at an all inclusive resort in Jamaica! I came home more relaxed than I have been in a long time. This will prob be our last "family vacation" as our oldest is engaged and getting ready to move out and the youngest is a senior in HS.
I would ask the wife what she would like to do for vacation and then compromise - a week in ....(Hawaii, Europe, where ever)? and then some camping - FOR BOTH OF YOU GO TO BOTH PLACES!!
Now if she is like my mom, she would hate camping as my mom thinks she needs to sweep up the campground...that woman is constantly cleaning!!
Interesting discussion. I totally understand if she thinks it'll be work. When we were looking at TTs, my DH was wondering why I wanted one with the front, larger kitchen. He said it wouldn't be a vacation for me if I had to cook, so we would still eat out. But to me, part of camping is the cooking/eating/being outside.
We discussed at length and decided that we would eat out sometimes, when on a tourist vacay, and otherwise outdoor cooking, along with everything else, would be shared events.
I'm going to harken back to what another poster asked. Is she suffering from depression? There are some of the signs here. Doesn't want to go anywhere or do anything. Stays inside on the couch. Lots of folks get depression and it can be treated. Might want to ask her doctor about it.
As I sit here typing this my DW is doing dishes in our TT, at 10:20 p.m. I've wondered why she keeps the place so clean and neat when she isn't really a big camping fan. Just occurred to me that, at home, she now does very little along those lines. I do the daily cooking, we have a house cleaner, and she sleeps late. She probably feels it's her duty to run things on the road.
So you don't get the wrong idea, we ran a business for a very longs time. Her weekdays began at 4 to 4:30 a.m. and often ran 14 to 16 hours, plus some of most weekends. She has earned the right to take her retirement seriously!
Maybe if the OP's DW got some help around the house it might alter her stance. Who knows?
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gonna have to find out all the reasons and get back to post here, when we do go she rarely leaves the rv. Looks like its gonna be a guy thing too me
My wife is the same way, rarely wants to leave the TT. I don't mind; I'll jump in the golf cart, cruise and socialize on my own cuz I'm gonna have fun with or without her. If the wife starts to wonder what I am doing she will just have to come with me and see.
I have to go along with this. She says that the bugs will get her, it is too hot to be outside the MH, it is too cold to be outside the MH, there is nothing to do uotside but set and watch people (boring), the wind is blowing and it is "whatever". Good I tell her I am going Kayaking, Fishing, take the golf cart to the club house, walk the dog, wor "whatever". And I do what I say. Me and the dog may end up being the only ones full timing when it is time to go. She is happy to travel, stay at a 4* hotel, eat in restrurants and fly someplace. I will be RVing. I say go do your thing and don't worry about it. Oh yes I forgot I do all of the packing and unpacking and cooking/dishes and shopping and cleaning the rig and making the beds etc. There is no work demand or expectation for her do do any of it. Just go and relax...
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My DW is hard to get camping as well. I just bought a Class B thinking that she may come around a little more, not to mention it is way easier than the Pop-up to set up, especially alone. Who knows, she keeps saying that she wants to do a "real" vacation, go and sit on a beach somewhere and have someone cater to you....not my idea of a vacation but I may plan something for next year and let her have her vacation....
After reading most of these, i've come to the conclusion that i've got it made, my DW loves to go camping, albeit not as long as me sometimes,I could go for 6 months at a time, (if I had the time), but she is ready for the S&B after 2 or 3 months, but she goes with me everytime.
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